I confess I have left the whole Lenten self-examination thing a bit late this year but finally this week I've dragged my soul in front of a 360 degree mirror and it wasn't a pretty sight: bashed, bruised and attempting to sulk in corner pretty much describes the situation. A series of demanding circumstances, a... Continue Reading →
Teething Troubles
I have a problem controlling my mouth. 'Keeping it shut' and 'Feeding it too much' are the most common mouth problems I know and, although I'm occasionally afflicted by these, my current problem is simply pain: my teeth hurt. It feels like someone has put an orthodontic brace around my front upper teeth and tightened... Continue Reading →
Gin Therapy? or ‘The Art of Good Conversations’
Listening to Radio 4 this morning I heard there was a new cure for a serious disease: gin therapy. 'Really?' I thought, 'That can't be right' I thought about it a bit more: 'It must have been 'gym therapy' - ooh, dear, I don't fancy the sound of that'. Turns out it was 'gene therapy'!... Continue Reading →
Loving Difficult People
This weekend I am giving a seminar called 'Loving Difficult People' (part of the Activate conference in London, but it's fully booked, so you can't come, sorry!) I could have called it 'how to love people who drive you bonkers' or 'getting along with people you don't like' or 'staying connected and staying sane'. But I... Continue Reading →
Am I just a drawer in the filing cabinet of God’s mind?
Sometimes I am tempted to think of my life as a filing cabinet. There are just so many compartments in my mind. At the start of every week I write three lists over a double page spread in my notebook. On the left hand side I have a whole page under the heading CHURCH (which... Continue Reading →
Still learning to Swim
I have recently learnt to swim... again.I guess I must have learnt when I was very small because I have loads of memories of swimming but none whatsoever of actually being taught to swim, which probably explains why I was never very good. Terror of being underwater isn't exactly an asset for successful swimming and had,... Continue Reading →
Can a ‘bad’ feeling lead you to a ‘good’ action?
Christians have a hard time admitting 'bad' feelings. Mention 'anger', 'sadness', 'fear', 'worry' or 'envy' and eyes start to glaze over with a readiness to deny all. Fearful of sin, many have believed that it is better to deny these feelings any place in our lives. So instead of acknowledging them, confessing them or allowing... Continue Reading →
Why Facebook might be bad for your emotional health
Quite a long time ago I came across a list of 'Thots', silly one-liners that people put up on Facebook or under their email 'signature'. Most were only mildly entertaining: "Do NOT argue with a spouse who is packing your parachute" "I'm not sure how ambivalent I should be" That sort of thing. But there... Continue Reading →
‘You are a toaster’ John 15 (rewritten)
John 15 is a pivotal passage in my life. Verse 5 'apart from me you can do nothing' has become the foundation statement of my calling. In addition I have just written a 5,00o word study of these 11 verses. One of my conclusions is that we have lost the impact of this passage because... Continue Reading →
Deaconally not Diagonally
I have just had the opportunity to deacon at the Cathedral. (Is there a verb 'to deacon'? I'm not sure) I enjoyed it immensely and hopefully didn't disgrace myself, I think I was only in the wrong place at the wrong time just the once, or maybe it was twice? There's an awful lot to... Continue Reading →