This isn't so much a book review as a library review - this woman has written alot and it's all very good. Where do I start? 'The Gifts of Imperfection' is annoyingly brilliant. why annoyingly? Because she kind of says the exact same thing that I wrote TWENTY-THREE years ago! Only she says it alot... Continue Reading →
‘It is what it is’
This is a phrase that has got me through some difficult experiences and some low moments. I've found myself saying it again to a couple of people lately. It may sound like resignation but there is a world of difference between resignation and acceptance (see image). So when I say this phrase I mean acceptance.... Continue Reading →
Bird-watching is a lot like thought watching
I am not much of a birdwatcher but I am learning to become a thought watcher and I was intrigued the other day by a metaphor which connected the two ideas. For about six months now I have been practising meditation. Practising is what you do when you are not very good at something and... Continue Reading →
Why the one truth most people live by will not help you
"Peace on earth"? How, in God's name (quite literally) did the concept of 'peace' come to be associated with the birth of child? Anyone who's ever had a child will tell you that the quality of peace is not something you associate with the arrival of children! In fact the very opposite: not only are... Continue Reading →
Prayer as breathing and breathing as prayer
Breathing: necessary, unconscious, continuous, usually an easy activity, we don't even learn it, we just do it. Prayer: ... err? a learned activity, a conscious effort, we 'might do it wrong', we are not sure why we do it or who is 'listening' or what effect it has but that doesn't stop most people praying... Continue Reading →
Mindfulness: end of course conclusions
I’ve been leading a mindfulness group for the last 9 weeks. “Leading” is actually a slightly misleading word. All I did was invite 10 to 12 friends to purchase the same book that I myself had decided to read and then I set up a closed group on Facebook with the idea that we could... Continue Reading →
Stop Postponing Happiness
Many of us spend a lot of our lives postponing happiness. Don't believe me? How often do you catch yourself thinking: "when I've… (Insert project/plan/book to read/goal to fulfil)… Then I'll be happy" This false belief is laid down deeply inside us-it might even lie below the level of conscious thought but occasionally it does... Continue Reading →
Negative self – talk – ‘stopping the ticker tape of internal self destruction’
Many of us have a script that runs in our heads. It is so much part of us that we are barely aware of it and yet it is hugely influential. Here are the kinds of things we say to ourselves: "I'm rubbish at this..." "Nothing ever works out well for me" "I can't change"... Continue Reading →
‘Be Kind to Yourself’ – modern mantra or ancient truth?
'Be kind to yourself' . It's a phrase we hear a lot these days but I think it's relatively recent currency in our language. I don't think that 20 years ago we were telling ourselves this but maybe I just don't remember. So is it another self absorbed, slightly Buddhist, modern mantra or is it an... Continue Reading →
Mindfulness – helpful practise or misleading fad?
I've been exploring the whole idea of 'mindfulness' in more depth recently. There have been two books that have helped me with this Mindfulness and Christian Spirituality by Tim Stead, who is an Anglican priest and Finding Peace in a Frantic World by Williams and Penman. This last one is described as a "life changing... Continue Reading →